Time Heals All Wounds

✝️ Unpacking Truths: Episode 114: Time Heals All Wounds 

Join Pastors Kendall and Mo as they delve into the timeless saying, "Time Heals All Wounds." In this thought-provoking episode, they explore the complexities of healing, forgiveness, and reconciliation in the context of relationships, both with others and with oneself.

🕰️ Timing Is Everything: From smoking pork shoulders to the deeper wounds of the soul, discover how time plays a role in healing and whether it's always the solution.

💔 Relationships and Healing: Explore the nuances of healing in relationships and why simply waiting for time to pass might not always be effective.

🙏 Turning to Scripture: Journey through biblical insights on healing, forgiveness, and the importance of leaning into God during times of emotional turmoil.

💡 Key Takeaways: Gain practical wisdom on how to navigate the healing process, whether it's addressing past hurts, seeking reconciliation, or finding solace in God's grace.

🔍 Digging Deeper: Learn how addressing unresolved wounds from the past can lead to a deeper understanding of oneself and a more profound connection with God. 

📚 Recommended Resources: Discover books and resources that offer further insights into the topics discussed in this episode, including "Putting Your Past in Its Place" by Stephen Viars.

🗣️ Join the Conversation: Share your thoughts, experiences, and questions in the comments below. How do you approach healing in your own life? We'd love to hear from you!

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Transcript

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so today on Unpacking Truth we are going to talk about something that I know you've heard before the phrase time heals all wounds okay Moe before we jump in though speaking of time okay this morning um uh I decided I wanted to smoke a pork shoulder well I decided a few days ago but I ran into this problem of timing so time timing yeah and uh because I was gonna have to get up in the middle of the night for it to be ready for dinner tonight and then I stumbled upon this key idea that I'm sharing with all of you uh folks who like to smoke meat I had a 9 pound pork shoulder and it was gonna take me way too long to smoke it here's the trick I cut it in half and now it becomes two four and a/2 pound pork shoulders and it'll go a lot quicker put it on at breakfast this morning be ready for dinner tonight there's your tip for the day all right we are all blessed because of that thank you so much of course of course you'll be sharing that right well of course yeah hop on over of course this happened hi he invited me hi I'm Pastor Kendall and I'm Pastor Mo and we are unpacking truths where we unpack God's Word and God's truth for life today everyone is seeking and we are here to help you find hope and power in God's work alright so um this phrase time heals all wounds it's actually do you know where it comes from no I don't tell me okay so I did a little bit of research cause I'm like where does this phrase come out of and it actually comes out of a Greek poet and dramatist his name is Manandur and from around 300 b C E and the correct phrase is actually time is the healer of all necessary evils hmm and so what that is meant to convey is that our feelings whether you know our sorrows are pain with time they will dwindle and disappear okay now I'm not sure how well this is gonna be fun to unpack so yeah when I was thinking about this small what immediately struck me is this image of our bodies and time and healing and there are certain things like if I get a cold six or seven days later time is gonna heal that I can take all this medicine but a cold is just gonna take time to heal it right or if I get a cut on my hand and I put a Band Aid on it three days later I pull the Band Aid off and it's healed yeah so time does heal some of those wounds on my body there are other things that happen to my body though that sort of more serious things that might heal with time might not and there are other things that without intervention they're not gonna heal time isn't gonna heal them and so I I do think it's a truth or statement that has some truth but misleading because it time doesn't always seal yeah sometimes but not always right and I and I'll kind of go a little further I think that time plus right hmm so it's like time plus care you had to clean the wound you had to put the Band Aid on maybe some Neosporin um time plus I've had a cough for like three months now so I'm not quite sure how much time this is gonna take but you know I think time plus sometimes is what I think it time is needed in the process but the healing is ultimately a process right it is it is and so let's dig into uh some scripture some ideas that we have around that and uh you know we one of the ways to think about it is healing of relationships yeah so one of the places where sometimes things get broken is in marriages get married with kids with friends at church yeah okay and all sorts of relationships and so speak into that for a minute Mo for for time heals all wounds in relationships does time always just do it what I what I've personally found is that the more time I let go in a relationship I find the opposite actually happens right I find that the longer I go without asking for forgiveness or giving forgiveness it just kind of continues right and the relationship becomes more strained the longer I go without addressing something that's bothersome or that's cause pain um the worse things become and actually you know a lot of research suggests the opposite that time actually is isn't in our benefit to wait when it comes to relationships um waiting and letting time go actually can cause depression for many of us uh sometimes substance abuses we try to medicate from the pain right we wanna numb things out or just even numbing ourselves out going to Netflix not wanting to deal with the deeper issue within our lives which is relationships like we're created to be the body and it's so important to the way of Jesus is reconciliation of our relationships like Jesus tells us if you have a problem with your brother leave get out of the temple stop worshipping and go make things right and so that's how important doing the work which takes time right of reconciliation which creates space for healing is important I think so it's not just time it's time plus or yeah and sometimes time you're saying is a detriment and it actually it can lead cause some of those hurts to get frozen in people's lives so then they don't even want to heal or they just get stuck in that or they're stuck in their own thoughts right like we are a people to that that are to be transformed by the renewing of our minds that we see in Romans and yet if you leave me to my my own mind and and what you know where I think you came from in your the way you approached me or how you hurt me like we always um expect the best out of ourselves we know our own intentions right for for a situation but we don't know other people's intentions behind why they said something or did something so we always go worst case scenario often with other people yeah we assume the best about our own intentions and the worst about others yes and if we get stuck in that thinking yeah absolutely time isn't healing it we gotta address it no we're actually making it worse you know for ourselves you know the um well in Jesus did spend so much time talk about forgiving I mean he just came back to that again and again and again that he didn't just say well you're gonna hurt each other but let time heal it he says go to I mean in Matthew 18 he says if there's a relationship that's broken if your brother or sister is sinned against you go to them yeah to address it um point out that so that you can win that brother or sister back and if that doesn't work then bring two or three others that he lays out this whole process and he doesn't just say oh just forget it time will heal yeah he says there is intervention that is needed yeah there's actually like the way of Christ is a way it's work right and so I know want want so so we have to do that work right and we're we're already told that our wounds have been healed

right so I looked at first Peter 2: 7:12

24 it's by his wounds you have been healed and so Jesus already did the work on the cross so we could be set free we could be set free of our own understanding and ideas of where other people are coming from we can be set free of the lies spoken over our lives maybe in our childhood we could be set free from being disrespected or let go in a job unjustly we can be set free from being held captive from certain things and we can be set free from thinking our lives are over or or come to an end because we've been diagnosed with something right what does it mean to live a life abundantly even though I've been diagnosed with Crohn's or even though I've been diagnosed with you know diabetes or whatever it is that people are going through cancer like what is how am I being called to live out the way of Christ in this situation in a way that is healing brings healing to myself brings healing to those around me and because we've been given this gift we've been set free in Christ to do that and to live this out and it takes a lot of time hmm but but time with intention not just time in letting it flow you're saying oh yeah like it's okay I could like an athlete if you think of an athlete and and they wanna be the best they wanna have this you know performance they wanna perform the best that they can um it takes time right but you have to work like it takes a lot of work to get to you know to get your numbers at a certain whatever you know if you're a runner or you know whatever it is you do like it takes a lot of work and if anyone um who's experienced anything traumatic you know the reality is that sometimes our wounds aren't full healed the way we expect right they're not healed and that they go away I think we need to remember that when Christ rose from the dead uh he had his scars yeah and so what does it mean for us to be a people who um have our scars and yet they're healed over but they're still there and so really just being able to take these things within our lives that have caused pain um and let them integrate into our lives that is incredibly healing one but there's a difference between nursing a wound yeah and and getting the healing that eventually leaves a scar but is healed so there's a remembrance of a hurt that has happened but healing has come because they're also folks who have you know I'm about to get gross but I'm festering wounds for a long time that is not helpful yeah but but in our lives that it can be that same thing there can be things that have hurt me in the past that God has brought healing to but as you said I will still know that now you know if I touch that point of let's say it's uh you know let's say parents who just said you're never gonna amount to anything yeah and you know when I eventually heal from that but then I get to a point where someone says something well you're not making much of anything it might it may touch a scar doesn't mean that it's still a wound but that I the to the work that I've done with god in claim that healing claim that Grace claim the truth that I am fearfully and wonderfully made yeah then it's no longer wound but there's still a little remembrance of what had happened there oh absolutely it's I mean that could be a trigger right so like um with this stuff I think when I was most frustrated was you know there's been some addiction and some abuse in my childhood growing up and there are real triggers and there's trauma right and so the reality is sometimes in relationships sometimes with people unconsciously my body will react as though I am back you know in that moment and it I can't control it I don't like it I want it to be gone and what I had to come to was that space of I have come very far I am not where I was I am in the process of he lean and just like Paul who had that thorn in the side of his you know who had to carry that thorn right in his side like sometimes God's Grace is sufficient and and the healing comes in you know leaning into God during those moments and God helping see you through it right not always take it away but uh give us the strength to endure move through grow from I think that's the healing that comes you know another line with that when I was reflecting on this this past week and preparing for it I was just LED to the Psalms and the number of times in Psalms where you hear things like praise the Lord for he has heard my cry for mercy yeah um in Psalm 31 in a panic I cried out uh I'm cut off from the Lord but you heard my cry for mercy and answered my call for help I think sometimes people get hurt in life and they just say stuck in that hurt oh yeah and that and that what God is saying is cry it out to me yeah offer it up to me um pray it out to me right because when you when we are crying it out to God what we're essentially doing is we're opening ourselves for that healing to come because if we don't time may not heal that it may just stay stuck in us until we cry it out and pray it out yeah and then we're opening ourselves for the healing I agree yes so there is a leaning into God right cause we need a power greater than ourselves but we also have to be doing the work you we also have to be doing the introspection looking into ourselves saying like King David search me god you know reveal the anxieties within me what is going on in me because if we don't do that then it's not going to I I don't think we're gonna give it the opportunity to heal because you know we have a God that says remember remember you know we are people that live out of a story and so what does it mean to remember certain things that happened in our lives and our parents lives and you know that we've carried with us you know I I said it before and I'll say it again but but Pete's gazero with emotionally healthy spirituality said you know Jesus is in my heart Grandpa's in my bones what are the things we carry with us right that affect our relationships and our ability to heal um even from some of the hurts that we just carried with us from you know childhood or but when you were talking about festering wounds I couldn't help but think of my uncle who um we're about to get gross yeah we're about to get gross yeah so what I should stop right now but no I'm going I'm going there I'm going there um so my uncle had diabetes well yeah so he's passed now and he you know there was a wound on the bottom of his foot yeah and he's like oh it'll be fine just a little bit of time right it'll be good and he he like aired it out he didn't really do anything with it and in time it just became like Gang Green and started to and he actually ended up losing his foot yeah you bet and because he didn't do anything and so physically when we don't do anything to care for ourselves it's like god is there and in it with us but it's the process of I wanna say like almost going to the cross right like it's death out of death comes life out of going into the darker spaces and places or doing the work that we otherwise don't wanna do or self care that otherwise we feel is inconvenient it's still part of the process right it is I I think again going back to my analogy from the beginning and not uh that there are some wounds in in some things that are small yeah that the time can just heal that there are give me some examples well I I think sometimes um you know I uh email a friend and or text a friend and I don't hear back for a couple days or text a family member and I don't hear and I'm kind of like that stinks you know I reached out why aren't they responding and then a day later they uh they respond and maybe they say oh I'm sorry I was uh I was delayed a little bit I had something going on in my life and I just kind of let that one go I don't need to like well why didn't you respond back you said like I didn't wanna talk to you well that would be a bigger relationship issue we have to work on but but I think there can be little little slights little things in life yeah between people that happen in life that we can just kind of let roll off there was a moment where you just said you know then they contacted me a few days later and said hey this came up what if that never happened right like is time just gonna make everything fine you think well yeah I mean there are some there are some people in my life that I don't have regular contact with yeah and they may reach out to me and I may go oh I need to get back to you and then I don't yeah and then three months later we connect again and then it seems like it's okay so I think there are some small things that we have to just be able to let go and the time can and sometimes there even been you know I hear people told me like you know I haven't talked to my brother in four years yeah because we had this big argument and then they said to me you know it's four years later I don't even remember what we argued about right and all the time so that there are sometimes where then they sort of went like why are we caught in this this fight because we don't even know what the fight is about and then they they sort of reconcile like one reaches out to the other so yeah sometimes time can sort of drain it of the the immediate yeah yeah and and I do think sometimes when when someone has hurt me or something yeah sometimes it's not best to go talk to him right away if I'm still hot about it yeah I need to let myself come down a little bit you know reflect on myself let go of some of that hurt a little bit so then I can engage them in a in a way that's productive yes yeah absolutely I think you there's some wisdom in that for sure allowing some space for the like intensity of the emotion to go down cause that's never pretty if I'm if I'm hot and angry and then we're gonna go at it I mean I want to don't get it twisted like I wanna have that argument at that moment but it's probably as the older I get I'm realizing that's not the wisest I see more like that I jump in my car and come back three days later how about you guys do you guys get a go right at it when you're angry and upset and if so let us know how that works out for you or do you give yourself time or what do you do to um allow space or healing to occur yeah I think the more we share that just the more beneficial it is is we figure out what this means and looks like looks like cause we all have spaces and places in our lives that need healing all kinds of different feel you know one maybe just a scripture to end on I just thought one of the ones I've been trying to is first Peter 5 7 cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you that the God just invites us to cast the hurts the things that need healing on him the anxiousness about that yeah because he is a god of healing and he wants to bring that healing to us absolutely I agree with that and um you know there's actually this book that I really like and okay so my future won't be the last thing oh sorry are we go ahead not not yet wait me last oh but there's more there's more so there's this book um and I read it a long time ago it's called Putting Your Past in Its Place it's by Stephen Byers and he says giving answers about what should occur today in our lives without having processed what has already happened is a sure recipe for counsel that in Gonzales is foolish and shameful and I really sat with that for a while because you know what begins to happen is that are our past it does hinder the way we grow to look like Christ if we don't look at it and address it um because then often there's unanswered questions to things there's unanswered hurts or unaddressed hurts there's unresolved problems he says we begin to make unwise choices as we react out of our emotions rather than kind of processing why certain things happened or what our part was in it um and often like Jesus says look at the log in our own eye before we look at the splinter in other people's eyes and so that's the first step of healing is actually to look at ourselves and then run to God like you said with the Psalms and and then start the journey from there so it maybe seek God's wisdom and what that timing needs to be maybe we need to engage quickly maybe we need to give it a little bit of time yeah and there's wisdom when you run in the car and drive away from me yeah well don't do it too often alright well this is good good stuff we hope this brings a little bit of healing in your life as we've talked about what god thinks about the process of healing whether physically and or emotionally and spiritually um that's what God wants for us is healing and we've been set free amen next time an unpacking trews so why is the love of money the root of all evils and I came up with four things pretty quickly um one thing is and we can talk about these in details we want but yeah one is that it bends our attention to worldly things that we're so caught up in our stuff that we lose sight of God so that's one um I think the second thing is it can lead us to shift our morals our ethics that you know we're filming this I don't know when it's gonna be aired but we're filming this in sort of the middle of tax season and the time when a whole lot of us are tempted to go like well do I really include that oh maybe I don't include that number and name that it shifts our morals cause I don't wanna give it up and so we so that's why the love of money can just justifying why justifying things off you bet I mean is it a sin no not careful mom don't get yeah what you wanted is always a sin thanks for tuning in if anything we said brought up any questions or ideas let's keep the conversation going in the comments below or email us at unpacking truths at Loc Church and don't forget to like share and subscribe so we can continue helping people unpack God's truth for their lives